So recently i hit a bump in the love scene, got me wondering what a girl like me, even with my first hand experience on this, is still not getting it right...(if guys ever get it right anyway). I wouldn't really know the dynamics around it, but contrary to many peoples believes, it actually does exist, well, if you choose to look at it from my eyes. Most of us have grown up with the childish illusion and belief that love is all roses without thorns, a beautiful journey filled with countless epic and breath taking moments, an everyday blossomy affair,,..and well the list goes on!
Don't get me wrong, yes, love is something close to this,..no actually half of this but like someone recently told me,..we need to get real with ourselves and see it as it is. Its the self instilled huge expectations of a true, perfect and pure (unblemished) love that actually sabotages the existence of one! Lets get real, at the end of the day, he or she is as human as it gets, prone to the same mistakes, failures, intrigues and temptations.
We all fall short one way or another, make mistakes, forget to do something we where asked to do, show up late, want some alone time, want to catch up with the girls or boys for that matter,...and making room for this is not stooping low,..its actually getting real with life, because its bound to happen whether or not your love was made in the U.S.A or Africa for those that get my drift.
I am not saying that your other half can do whatever he or she pleases,..no,.(clearly, that wouldn't be a relationship at all),. i am just saying that its unfair to expect what you cant deliver. Huge expectations lead to double heartache,..why not save yourself the hurt and embrace life as it is...have reasonable expectations, he doesn't drive but hey,..you also don't,. he or she forgot that important date but you also hate his family,..love doesn't need to be perfect to be great, it can be awesome even with small flaws.
Its not a crime to want so much out of love, we all wish it was so,...only the good without the crazies,. but i choose to believe that even with the crazy moments, love can be at its best. Be realistic and take it as it is,..the small imperfections shouldn't stand in your way of enjoying what you heartily desire.
Down the road,..thorns will emerge but don't be oblivious of the roses that are still alive and intact. Its taken me twenty something years to realize that as hard as it gets we stand on the way of our bright love-filled futures. Sometimes relationships can seem like a whole lot of work until you sit back and realize just how much you've been given. And as they constantly say,.. a thriving, healthy and amazing relationship is absolutely within your reach if you and your partner are willing to do a bit of work.
Good thing is, you don't have to actually take this words with you, Because,..what do i know?,..i am clearly failing at it,..!
